Temperament and Giftedness

If you are unfamiliar with your temperament (which includes your preferences for how you take in, process, and respond to external stimuli), it can be very helpful to dip into the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. There are numerous sites that offer the test for free, or you can buy the book, Please Understand Me, by David Keirsey and Marilyn Bates. (There are many newer versions of this type of test. Whichever tool you use, it is the basic concepts that are most helpful.)

Personal preference for extroversion or introversion, and a variety of other factors, greatly influence the kind of environments you may prefer. Your preferences and needs may not be the needs of those around you or of those you hope to serve.

Individuals have dominant ways of interacting with the world, and these may change as the individuals grow. Over time you may become more flexible in your modes of processing. Your varying tendencies and preferences are based not only on whether you are working or playing, stressed or relaxed, but also whether you feel safe or threatened.

Everyone is somewhere on a continuum between introversion (seeking inspiration inside oneself) or extroversion (gaining energy from exchanges). People vary as to whether they prefer to collect information before making decisions, or prefer to make a decision in order to then be open to the experience. Interaction and the receiving of information tends to be from either a predominantly emotional (heart) or mental (head) place. And people tend to either rely upon their past experiences and what they can “see” to make sense of things, or rely upon a more abstract internal sensing to understand things.

Understanding your needs, and the differences between your needs and those of others, allows you to make informed and conscious decisions about whose needs you are meeting when you make choices. From the amount and quality of noise in a space, to the complexity of visual information in a room, personal preferences vary. The more you understand the nature of those you wish to reach in a business setting, or your own tendencies and preferences in your home and work settings, the more aligned your choices can be.

Gifted and Sensitive

Highly gifted and sensitive children often use their gifts to form a bridge to a world that fails to meet them. Their gifts become tools of the egoic self. Often, there is a need to heal an original wound so that the highly gifted or sensitive adult can live from an aligned place with his or her gifts.

Highly gifted or sensitive people can be endlessly frustrated by clients, staff, and fellow entrepreneurs who do not respond to the world with a similar level of professionalism, consideration, or multi-level awareness. The more the gifted understand the uniqueness of the qualities they possess, the better able they are to offer their services, without being injured by the fact that their unique vision, attention to detail, and expectation for excellence are the exception and not the rule.